Tuesday, August 23, 2005
So I’ve had a number of accomplishments this week. Went to the DMV, passed the vision and driving test, got a new license; began work on a new project at work, and spent the weekend in New Orleans hammering out the blueprint of a new family.
And the plan is, provided the pregnancy happens, that they are going to try to adopt the child when it is born. But in the deep south such adoptions into gay households, even if conceived by gay people, are rarely granted. . . so it’s looking like they either establish residency here in Chicago and do it here (where gay adoption is easier) or they are simply not able to adopt and I maintain by parental rights and responsibilities, which is fine with me.
And we also hammered out what will happen if something, God forbid, happens to them: I will take custody of the child. If something happens to me, then my brother takes custody. A trust will be set up in the child’s name for exactly these circumstances.
All we need now is a pregnancy and child. . . so I’ve been researching how to donate here in IL and have found things frustrating: laws regulating these types of transaction are oppressive and most hospitals no longer provide this service. So I’ve resorted to going to a sperm bank and having it shipped down there.
Dear God, I can’t believe this is the subject of this blog!
And in other, less interesting, news. . .
I’ve been having a lot of pain in my leg for the last year or so. Diggerblue finally convinced me to do something about it and I went to the Dr. who prescribed physical therapy.
It’s working wonders. The pain has substantially been reduced after only a couple of weeks. But the broader picture is such: I am getting old and the old body can’t take the beating I’ve subjected it to over the years anymore.
Tempus fugit
And the plan is, provided the pregnancy happens, that they are going to try to adopt the child when it is born. But in the deep south such adoptions into gay households, even if conceived by gay people, are rarely granted. . . so it’s looking like they either establish residency here in Chicago and do it here (where gay adoption is easier) or they are simply not able to adopt and I maintain by parental rights and responsibilities, which is fine with me.
And we also hammered out what will happen if something, God forbid, happens to them: I will take custody of the child. If something happens to me, then my brother takes custody. A trust will be set up in the child’s name for exactly these circumstances.
All we need now is a pregnancy and child. . . so I’ve been researching how to donate here in IL and have found things frustrating: laws regulating these types of transaction are oppressive and most hospitals no longer provide this service. So I’ve resorted to going to a sperm bank and having it shipped down there.
Dear God, I can’t believe this is the subject of this blog!
And in other, less interesting, news. . .
I’ve been having a lot of pain in my leg for the last year or so. Diggerblue finally convinced me to do something about it and I went to the Dr. who prescribed physical therapy.
It’s working wonders. The pain has substantially been reduced after only a couple of weeks. But the broader picture is such: I am getting old and the old body can’t take the beating I’ve subjected it to over the years anymore.
Tempus fugit
# posted by otas : 1:46 PM
